2 years ago, I was living on the East Coast working part-time at my "pay the bills job" and full-time on my side hustle. This amazing opportunity came along to turn my side hustle into a full-time, salary and healthcare situation.
Here's the thing, the opportunity was across the country in Los Angeles. I had commitments and projects that I was just starting, so this meant breaking commitments and in turn putting serious stress on very important relationships I had built. I thought long and hard on the situation and what it really came down to wasn't about what other people needed from me or how it would look to others (actual concerns I had early on); it was really about me and what I wanted for my future and making decisions that aligned with my goals.
So, I sat down with the people I had made commitments to and was upfront about this new opportunity, what it meant for me and discussed what compromises could be made so I wasn't leaving them in the lurch. Even though, there was a lot of pressure and scary next moves ahead — from family and friends giving their opinions to colleagues dropping hints or shade — I made the decision that brought me closer to what I wanted. Staying true to your vision amongst all the noise and chatter and opinions is a true BossUp moment.
Knowing what I know now, one piece of advice I would have given myself was to get more sleep. I was so stressed and worried about who I may be disappointing and how will this affect my relationships, that I lost a lot of sleep, literally. But also, I wasn't allowing for the situation to settle within me so that I could make a decision based on my wants and needs, instead of what everyone else wanted for and/or from me. There will always be someone who doesn't agree or is upset by a choice you've made, at the end of the day you are the one who has to live with the decisions you've made, so be sure they aretrue to you.
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